Registered Counsellor, Level 4S - Master Practitioner under Association of Psychotherapist and Counsellor Singapore I Certified Practitioner in Satir Transformational Systemic Therapy & Choice Theory Reality Therapy I Trained in Expressive Therapy, Practical Sandplay Skills, Family & Adult Support Tool I Accredited Facilitator for Myers-Briggs Type Indicator Facilitator (MBTI), Taylor-Johnson Temperament Analysis (TJTA) & PrepareEnrich Couple Assessment I Certificate of Attainment in Professional Supervision
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain."
~ Vivian Greene
Marriage & Family Counselling
Children & Adolescent Counselling
Sexuality & Intimacy Issues
Roland Koh is the Principal Counsellor at Grace Oasis Counselling Services. From his prior work as counselling manager at Focus on the Family Singapore, as well as a marriage & family counsellor in Care Corner Singapore and Agape Counselling Centre (Malaysia), he has gain extensive experiences working with couples, young adults struggling with stress, anxiety, depression, as well as sexuality issues. He has also helped parents and their adolescent child to navigate through difficult teenage transition years. Effectively bilingual, Roland is able to counsel in both English and Mandarin. As a family life educator, Roland has conducted a wide range of workshops such as Marriage Preparation programme, Marriage Support Programme, and have also spoken on topics such as Mobile Addiction, Resolving Conflicts in Relationship, Developmental Challenges for Special Needs, and more. Roland is passionate to work with couples. He has engaged couple-in-crisis to break cycles of perpetual conflicts. This is through helping them identify triggers, gain insights on unhealthy relationship dynamics, learn healthy conflict resolutions skills to resolve differences, and rekindle intimacy in the marriage.
His counselling approach is primarily informed by Satir Transformational Systemic Therapy (STST), which focuses on providing a non-judgmental, respectful and safe space that enable clients to develop a deeper awareness of themselves, of others and of the situation. In his therapy work, he also draws from a range of modalities such as Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, Choice Theory & Reality Therapy, Expressive Therapy to facilitate change by helping his clients to discover and learn ways that are helpful to attain their personal goals in therapy.
Roland believes that everyone has the potential to grow to be a better version of themselves. He sees that as his clients gained new insights and master undeveloped life skills, this has brought forth an increased sense of empowerment, improved quality of emotional well-being and greater confidence and independence to navigate through issues by themselves. Outside the therapy room, Roland enjoys music, basking in nature, going for long walks with his wife and sipping a cup of camomile tea before turning in for the day.
Successful Client Stories
One of Roland's couple clients were married with two children, they were on the verge of divorce. Conflict often ended in rage which had frightened their children. Roland supported the couple with personalised assessment and profiling tools that generate awareness of negative conflict patterns, unhelpful reactions that escalated the intensity of the conflict. He then customised an intervention plan which involves helping the couple gain mastery of healthy conflict resolution skills that they have not acquired. The mindfulness of the triggers in conflicts and is mindful of how unhealthy responses during conflict has aggravated them into aggressive reactions has helped the couple see less tension in their marriage. When conflict arises, it no longer escalates with untamed anger. The couple has learnt to 'dance in the rain' and to sit through the emotional storm without being critical or attacking nor to stonewall or withdraw from each other.
Another of Roland's client was a mother struggling with her teenage son whom she sees as rebellious. Counselling helped her to have a deeper insight into why his son has chosen to skip school, ran away from home and became indulged in mobile gaming. Roland worked with the teenage boy over individual sessions, then with the mother for two sessions before bringing the mother and son together for a joint session. The session provided a platform for her son to communicate the struggles he was facing. This helped his mother to understand the stressor factors he was going through and how he was using mobile gaming to escape from the challenges he couldn't cope in reality. This awareness enabled the mother to find new ways to support her son. She now dates her son for meals, listens to his challenges, provides space for him to get over the challenges by himself. Encouraged by this new relationship dynamics, her son has gone back to school and is more forthcoming to face his challenges in reality.
Master of Arts in Counselling